The writer of this article at Courtney Defeo calls it “girl drama,” but the feminist in me cringes a bit when I read that. Whichever way you look at it, it’s not “girl drama,”- it’s bullying. “Drama” just seems like a way to dismiss it as not being as serious. And girl on girl bullying can be brutal. Even if it’s not necessarily physical abuse, the snide comments, exclusions, hurtful words, and rumors can be just as painful. And it starts even younger than you think. Check out some of the tips from the Courtney Defeo post on talking to your daughter about “girl drama” and how to handle it:
-Carve out a time and place every day for talking
-Make sure she knows she can tell you anything
-Help her understand that her peers can’t tell her what to do- only parents, teachers, etc.
-Introduce empathy- teach her to put herself in others’ shoes so SHE doesn’t become the bully.
-Allow her to make the decision on what to do about the problem. Don’t immediately contact the teacher unless she says she wants you to. She may have another way of handling it.