I talked with a friend of mine last week who with his wife just adopted a baby girl. He said he’s not getting much sleep these days. He gets up about 3:00 every morning and gives his daughter what he calls “A bottle of shut up and go to sleep!” He deeply loves this precious baby and for that I am absolutely grateful.
However another friend of mine recently wrote on her weblog about a cousin who had adopted a boy and that happy ending was more elusive. From Just Another Pretty Farce,
Those cousins adopted a child from (?I think) South Korea, and then almost immediately upon that boy’s arrival found themselves pregnant. Tad and Tamara (not their real names) grew up side by side, but far from equal. Tad was the “oriental boy” and Tamara was the golden Child Of Our Bodies. Tamara’s college was paid in full, Tad was essentially kicked to the curb when he turned 18.
Just WOW. Katherine is absolutely correct when she recommends people who can’t accept an adopted child as “real” relatives to get a ferret – or a picture of a ferret instead of adopting.