I’m very frustrated with my youngest son. He’s 5, he’ll be 6 in October. He still has toileting problems. Sigh. He never wets his pants, but he does poop them with some frequency. All the advice I have read says to not make a big deal of it, so I don’t. I tell him to go clean himself up and I don’t help him with it or anything. But inside, I’m seething. By now, he should be able to control his bowels.
And I know he CAN control them- he never has these accidents at preschool, only at home. I am just so frustrated. Does anyone have any advice?
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He obviously wants more attention from you, just making sure you love him no matter what.
Keep up the smiles and help with cleaning duties. He’ll turn out to be a great kid yet (all kids go two steps forward, then, a half leap for mankind backwards as they grow). Completely normal.
Posted by: Mr Mogul | March 24th, 2009 12:04 pm |
I had a nephew with a similar prob. turns out he had chronic constipation and when it did come he couldn’t control it, and would have an accident. With the advice of their dr they started on some type of fiber supplement and it helped.
Posted by: Kacy | March 30th, 2009 5:36 pm |
It does get better. My son will be 6 in July. We still have some small issues, but they are fading every day. As my mother said “he won’t be pooping his pants when he is 16 years old…” I have heard that using/not using the bathroom is the one thing children can control in their little world, so they do … or don’t. Be firm. Make him be responsible for his own messes. Maybe set some incentives for him – i.e. a small, new toy at the end of each week he doesn’t have an accident. I also put a container of kandoo (wet wipes) on the back of our toilet. I think one of my son’s fears was getting poo on his hand/fingers. We were going through a LOT of TP … and using the plunger a lot just to make the TP go down. Good luck. Stay calm. He’ll outgrow it most likely.
Posted by: Megan | April 4th, 2009 11:00 am |