I guess the main reason is because I liked being an only so much that I want the same for my daughter I suppose if our family didn’t feel complete to either my husband or myself that reason wouldn’t be good enough, but nothing is missing for us…we don’t have to try again, to do it over or do it better, or fill a void.

We both have a million and one reasons for wanting an only child.

* We like being able to focus on our daughter.
* We want to enjoy everything about her without having to miss out because we have other children to take care of.
* We like having the time and ability to be the best parents we can be for her.
* We don’t want our daughter to ever feel that she isn’t as smart or as beautiful or as talented as a sibling or to ever question who in the family is loved more.
* We like that while other parents have to limit what they do for each child we don’t.
* We want to be able to take our daughter with us all over this country and all over the world.
* We like to have time to ourselves and time as a couple…in addition to having time for our child
* We like to be organized and are people who stress easily.(well, I am)
* We like being able to have a calm household at times and an active household at others…with the ability to choose which one at which time.
* We want to pay for her education.
* We want our daughter to learn how to be an independent person, feel comfortable with being alone at times, and know how to keep herself entertained.

Neither of us feel the need for our daughter to have a sibling for any reason.

* We don’t believe a baby should be born for another child to provide a playmate.
* We don’t believe parents should have a second child incase something happens to their first.
* We don’t believe there are any lessons that our daughter can’t learn without a sibling.
* We know that having a sibling is not a magic cure all for boredom, or loneliness, or character flaws, or dealing with aging parents.
* We don’t care what societies "norm" is, or how many people give us their unsolicited opinion on why we need to have another.

We have always wanted a singleton even before we met each other this was our decision for ourselves. No one has ever made a comment to either of us that made us question this decision. We have gotten angry at some of the things that come out of people’s mouths (or fingers here online), but have never felt uncertain because of them.