We all know how important parenting is and how much time is spent doing for the kids. Have you ever thought about why those kids are here? For most, the story goes like this… you date, get married and then because you are happily married you decide to start a family. When the babies get here life becomes utter chaos and one that is not your own anymore.

When is there time for mommy and daddy? Let’s face it, by the end of the day most moms are so tired that we fall into bed hoping not to be bothered until morning. I admit I am guilty of this too. According to an article at Web MD called Bad Marriage, Bad Heart it’s time to start thinking differently……

"Marriages and close friendships marked by negativity — such
as conflict and adverse exchanges — boost the risk of heart disease, according
to a new study.
   

"Those in a negative relationship were 34% more likely to have a
coronary event in the 12 years of follow-up," says Roberto De Vogli, PhD,
MPH, a researcher for the study, published in the Archives of Internal
Medicine.

   

Even after taking into account other factors that could contribute to heart
disease, such as depression, men and women with negative aspects in
relationships still had a 25% increase in heart disease risk over the follow-up
period, says De Vogli, an epidemiologist at University College London. "We
found the effect is there not only for married people," he says, but also
for unmarried people who have negative relationships with close friends."

This article even talks about close friendships. If you have a negative relationship with a friend it can actually shorten your life span. I’ve had those kinds of friendships and they are a drain mentally and physically. Not worth heart disease and all of the problems that come with it.

My marriage, on the other hand, is worth whatever it takes to be healthy for everyone in my family. When we are not happy the kids are not happy. We have to remember that one day our kids will be grown and on their own and we will be left with each other.